Thinking about men and women, especially within the church.  Thinking about some new friends we have just met.  Thinking about how we interact with one another.  Thinking about marriage today and what an amazing man I am married to… these words dripped down my pencil and begged to be written:


Beauty is elusive.

She is a timid little soul…reticent to come out of her safe places.

She is a creature that takes time to draw out from her carefully constructed enclosures and fear filled anxieties.

She does not come out into a clearing too quickly,

Nor does she respond to impatience or quick movements.


The one who would wish to see beauty must sit repetitively and quietly.

He must risk extending a hand to her- into her darkness – knowing he will be bitten.

He must be willing to bear the scars of beauty’s teeth and not pull back into his own hurt.

His gaze focuses kindly upon eyes that stare back at him through the dark undergrowth – in fear, distrust, and self-protection.

This one must speak in hushed tones

with gentle but strong words.

Because beauty knows falseness and withdraws from it.

So this beauty whisperer must always speak truth but within the cadence of love.


For beauty is afraid to come out into the open

-she is afraid of others

-she is afraid of laughter

-she is afraid of being crushed

-but most of all she is afraid of herself

of her strength, passion, and blinding brilliance

Beauty finds it easier to hide and live in shadows because she does not need to come face to face with her glory!

And the one who would call beauty out must also not be afraid of that glory or her power.

Oh no!  He comes with a strength all his own, knowing he will protect her and her strength will become synergistic with his.

THIS is why he is patient

THIS is why he calls

Because he sees her, fully glorious, though she hides,

And knows he is made complete with her emerging.